Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Majlis Betunang: Yay or Nay?

Weddings have come a long way compared to what it was 10-20 years ago. It is now a booming business assaulting u left and right what with photographers, dresses, pelamin, room decorations, flowers, families, ceremonies.

One of the biggest contentions for the modern bride and groom is the number of ceremonies to conduct. Most now prefer to abandon the whole 2 weeks, 10 functions and instead decide to concentrate on 2 key ceremonies: nikah and bersanding, which I find more manageable but of course, as most wedded couples have time and again have contested, it's rarely their decision, but rather decision of their parents.


My friend said, "APA YANG KU PLAN SEMUANYA NDA MENJADI! KANA OVERWRITE LEH MAMA!"

Hehe.

Here's an example, before wedding proceedings can begin, a couple usually needs to decide: should they have a majlis betunang? Many will opt for a yes. In fact more traditional families will scream in agony, should the function be foregone.

Nowadays, this part of the ceremony is more lavish, and we are noticing more and more wedding boutiques offering "Pelamin Tunang".

Pelamin Tunang From D'Crystal Crown Bridal Gallery

But nowadays, am noticing a new crop of spendthrift brides and grooms that forgo this Majlis Betunang (pelamin, catering, invitations, dress, makeup, photographers, hantaran, ring) altogether so that they can spend more money and leave days on their sanding (or honeymoon!), arguably the most expensive function in wedding proceedings.

Some others combine the Majlis Betunang and the Nikah, so they still save up and spend only on one function, but the bride gets an extra ring!

So, which one are u? Tunang or no tunang?

I wouldn't mind the extra ring. :)


7 comments:

Mr Baker said...

My first visit to this blog. It was a nice read.

Mr Baker said...

My first visit to this blog. It was a nice read.

Kak Yatie said...

Salam, nice blog...will visit u again soon...btw, please feel free to read my post related to wedding also: http://publicgold999.blogspot.com/2011/12/nak-kahwin-tapi-tak-cukup-duit.html

Wina Yassin said...

oh yes to bertunang hehe (=

Designer Wedding Cards said...

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Anonymous said...


i wud prefer bertunang mengambil sunnah Nabi Muhammad SAW...but not for a lavish engagement event. cuz sebenarnya majlis bertunang menurut sunnah Nabi, sepatutnya dirahsiakan... hanya kaum keluarga terdekat sahaja yg tau. becuz utk mngelakkan fitnah n etc... terutamanya if ada org dengki kan pasangan tersebut, mudah kana ganggu rltnshp dorg n in d end inda berjaya ke jinjang pelamin. Sebenarnya if kan buat besar2an biar tah pernikahan atu sebagai cara utk menghebahkan kpd kaum kluarga n jiran tetangga yg pasangan atu sudah berkahwin dan disamping tu mengelakkan terjadinya salah faham in d future e.g. kes khalwat tah pulang pdahal psangan atu sudah kahwin. I strongly disagree some young couples bride n groom to be make lavish engagement event...but anyway who am I to say NO to them? Well this is just for advice to other young couples yg kan bertunang atu biartah engagement atu dirahsiakan sahaja.

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