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Adina & Fakhrul (Berbedak)

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Memoirs OF A Bride (Part 3) - Berbedak

After a month of living with my husband, today I'm alone when woken up (yet again) by my mum at 9am. This time she reminds me that my grand aunts are coming to lulut me. Its back to having functions after such a long break. I've had not only a preview, but I experienced married life for a month. It took a lot of getting used to, its not as easy as it seems but its well worth it. I get out of bed, changed into 'whats necessary' and they did the works. Had the lulut, a shower and then the tangas. Used my 'white outfit' and walked around the house finding stuff to do till lunch. I had a house call manicure and pedicure after lunch but after, I got restless.

Putting on the tanduk and the thing for the back of the head.

Stand hired from citra idaman (kiulap), bohemia crystal bowls personal collection of my grandmum.

I went down to see everyone busy. The grannies were mixing paint into the bedak to give it colours, caterers fixing tables and everyone was running around. Then I saw the box of door gifts and no one stuck on my thank you cards on it. I started carrying the boxes, unpacking it and sticking the cards on. At first it was just me and my Mamit. Then my grand aunt came and told me to not do work coz then I'll look tired at night. I argued out that if I don't help, the job wont be done and continued doing my work. More people came and I was told off again so I gave in and 'stormed' into my room.

Bersikut in the bilik gata with my two grand mum waiting on the bed.

My grand aunts who gavev me my tenunan for my baju berbedak (L-R Nini Usu, Nini Eying, Nini Acai). Nini Acai designed the pattern. Kain Kapit was given as hantaran from Nasir.

Moore came to do my hair at 6pm, 5mins after Bu Amas came for make up. Make up was done first and then the head gear. First the tanduk thing, then the thing for the back of the head, then the naga, then the sisir, then the white kertas flowers then the bunga goyang then the white real flowers. As bad as everyone makes it sound, it wasn't all that painful. Having pins stuck into your hair didn't give me excruciating pain. I guess it really matters that u had the 'experts' to do it. It wasn't that heavy either. I mean, it was heavy but it was bearable.

Enzo Angiolini shoes lent by Busera.

Me

8:30pm and I'm still not dressed! I started getting worried. Finally they finished with my head, had make up touch ups and then I got dressed (the quickest part)! Now I was ready to make my appearance. They made me sit to put on my tutup kepala coz if I was standing no one could reach the top of my head and got escorted by my two Bu Irings down to the pelamin. Then it started, first my grand dad, then Daddy, then Bapa then the uncles and some VIP Pehins… I knew I was stiff. I sat straight and tried to feel for the back of my chair but I kept leaning back and it felt like it was so far away.

Finally I felt it and I was able to rest my back. Phew! I had a slight running nose and I was sniffing away on the pelamin. I tried to signal to my sister that I wanted tissue but they didn't get it and my aunts told me to keep my mouth closed. They pointed at their eye and shook their head. So I looked down at a point on the carpet. At the corner of my eye I could see my aunt fall! It was so hard to control myself into bursting into laughter! After some time, the pengangun told me to not look down and look up at the people who were going to bedak me. So I looked up but the men were moving and my eyes automatically followed them so I decided to stick to a 'point' and I picked the mens studs. It was so difficult to stop my eyes from wandering with moving objects! After the men were done, the women started. At some time I felt my back started to ache. There were just so many women!!!

Door gifts. biscuits from Bakerlyn cake shop (Kiulap).

Berbedak gift for the women (comes in 5 colours) shipped from China (organised by my cousin). Personalised ribbons from UK (fourseasonsvillage.co.uk). Flower accessories from Jakarta (Pasar Pagi Mangga Dua).

Finally it ends, and I'm escorted up, found my friends and took pictures. My friends were telling me how I looked nervous at the start coz my eyes were wandering around. Now I know what my family meant about not having 'mata liar'. I'm glad I found a way to control it!

Berbedak gift for the men from Mangkuk Emas trading (Batu Bersurat- same row as Red Canopy Cafe). Personalised ribbons from UK (fourseasonsvillage.co.uk ). Flower accessories from Jakarta (Pasar Pagi Mangga Dua).

Next I had to change into my 'lulut outfit' for my mandi bedak. After that, I got in my white clothes (nicer one this time), had my accessories put on and did the sikut thing at my bilik gata. It was quite difficult coz I kept stepping on my pengangun's skirt. I did small 'japanese' steps coz I cldnt hve normal steps. Had 3 'rounds' and then stopped and bagi salam to my grand mums that were sitting on the bed. Finally I'm done for the day and its nearly midnight. Everyone bids their goodbye's but I'm stuck yet again taking off my accessories, removing make up and everything else. It was tiring yet so much fun. I cant wait for my next function on Saturday.

A text from my husband.

The accessories are all personally owned by the grannies. My grand mum lent a few and so did my grand aunties. My family back in Kg Ayer days were goldsmiths which is why its in the family to own bits and pieces of these things. My butterfly pin is owned by my grand mother. Her mum gave it to her as her wedding present when she got married 60+ years ago.

Unedited entry by the bride herself, Muizzah.
Photography by eyan.

Memoirs of A Bride (Part 1)

I'm woken up at 9am by my mum and aunts who announce themselves in my room (I should've locked the door). I'm still a bit sleepy from the night before where my family and my 3 friends (Ainul, Bibi & Sera) came over for the AF finals but I manage to pull myself out of bed feeling somewhat invigorated. My 2 months worth of preparations will now be put to test. I'm not feeling the slightest bit nervous. I've been feeling extremely ecstatic for the past few weeks or so.

Mum reminds me that Pehin Yahya and Dato Ahmad (Nasir's uncles) are coming over at 10am for my signing and I go and get ready. For the signing I was asked by Pehin Yahya to read out the paragraph for myself which I did (in my head). I thought it was like if you buy stuff u are asked to read the terms and conditions, you don't really read it out loud rite? I was all quiet, happily reading the paragraph in my head when Pehin Yahya said "Baca.... Bismillahhirrahmannirrahim..". I repeated after and said "Bismillahhirrahmannirrahim" and kept quiet. He then said to read the paragraph and pointed at the 2 nd line so I was stuck contemplating if he wants me to read it from the top or from the 2nd line. So I asked! Hehehe…

After the signing more family members came to the house. I was shoo-ed upstairs and banned to not wander off around the house. So I skipped to my room and played around with my pembalas. Mum came in and said "Belulut!" then came in my grand aunties (many of them) and pulled me out and made me sit on a mat. They had it done like bebedak mandi where every 'old/married' person took turns to bedak me. Our family does not allow un-married people to bedak whoever is getting married. Apparently it's not allowed. They say the unmarried person wont get married if they do it. After that I had to change into kamban n they did the works. That was my bebedak mandi 'cowboy'.

At 2pm Eyan (photographer) came and took pictures of my pembalas and then came Bu Amas (my aunt who was doing my make up). So I sat while she painted my face and then I felt it! The 1 st sign of butterflies in my stomach. I was finally feeling nervous! Erwan (videographer) came and reported for duty, my friends started coming in and filling my room which distracted me during the process of having my make up done. Though it also made my nerves lesser. Make up was done, I ran down to change and use my tudung and came up to have my jewellery, tiara and veil put on.

Geared up, I took pictures with my friends and it was time for doa selamat (after hantar berian). My family members came in and gave the "Jangan ketawa ketawa. Senyum jangan besar. Mata jangan liar" talk. Not long after my 2 aunts came in my room to escort me down to the pelamin. So I sat, looked around, had Zakiyah make faces and distracting me, having the family walk up to me on countless occasions saying that my 'mata liar' and to behave. So to keep my eye at 1 point, I just watched the TV in which Nasir was being 'lectured' about marriage. Then came the time for the 'ijab & kabul' which despite his 1st time that was at the wrong time, his 2nd time was said without a glitch. After that Nasir had to read some 'agreement' where if he were to be missing for 6 months and I complained to authorities, it'd be automatic talak and I thought to myself… He's only just become my husband and he's already talking about divorce! Its like a pre-nup! Nasir went to salam with everyone and then he got escorted upstairs to where I was. Had him touch my head (tapak) and salam-ed (batal wudhu) him followed by him sitting next to me and we 'bersanding'. Everyone then started to head off to eat and Nasir said "sudah" and was about to walk off with them!

We took pictures and more pictures and more pictures and had a little cake cutting thing with more pictures taken. In the evening we went to Ban 3 (his house) to continue taking more pictures. By the time we got back to Mabohai (my house) we were absolutely tired. I managed to admire my hantaran from Nasir for a few minutes but I definitely didn't have the energy to unpack it! If I went back in time 10 years ago to when Nasir and I 1 st went out and told myself that I'd be getting married to Nasir in 10 years I don't think me in the past would've believed it cause its still very surreal to me now. It all feels like I'm in a blissful dream, one that I wont have to worry about waking up and going back to boring life. One could say I'm on cloud nine but a permanent cloud nine.

Memoirs of a Bride (Part 2)

Signing in the morning at my house

Victim of Bebedak Mandi

The stairs done by no other than me. Flowers flown in from KL by Dr Ismail. Bought in SSF by my friend Tasha who gets 50% discount!

Make up artist is my aunt who had her courses in London. Currently she lives in Abu Dhabi so I was lucky she was back on holidays to do my make up.

Hantaran from Nasir which was fixed by his sister in law's family.

Pembalas from me which was fixed by myself. Flowers custom made to my liking. Also flown from KL, also organised by Tasha.

All that glitters are diamonds! Tiara lent by my Aunt (she bought it in Korea). Very bling bracelet and necklace lent by Sera's mum. Bangle lent by my grand mum. Rings lent by my mum. Veil bought from Saffy.

My baju (dress). beads sewn and diamonds stuck on by myself.

Shoes from Prettyfit. A gift from Nasir during Raya last year that I didnt get to use much.

Nasir and uncle during the Akad Nikah.

Envelope made from Digital Impressions (KL)

Wedding favours. Chocolate mud cake from Bakerlyn Cake Shop.

Nasir's ring. Made to order from Diamond & Platinum.

My ring. Also made to order from Diamond & Platinum.

Wedding cake from Empire Hotel. A gift sponsored from my uncle Saiful Bahri.

Pelamin made from Norhayana. Made new for me (i gave them the design).
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Bulimic: Thank you for your wonderful contribution Muizzah. Everything looks so lovely, from the cake to the rings. On behalf of The Wedding Blog team, we wish Nasir & you a happy marriage and may you both be blessed by Allah SWT always. Amin.

Shafique & Wanda

As promised earlier on, here is the complete post from their wedding events. Thanks to Fidz & Tiyah for the text & images respectively.

Nikah

Nikah was held at individual venues, I think it is usually held under one roof (at the girls side) but instead of that the guy's nikah function was held at his place first and later went to the girls side at Kpg Mata-Mata. The bride's side managed to watch the Nikah function take place at our place via video call on Skype, apparently it was on projector for everyone to watch since it was not held under one roof. Technology these days!

Berbedak

Berbedak function took place on the 28th of March at the groom's side in Berakas. Outfit & accessories by Roza Rohaya located at Gadong Properties.

Bersanding

The Bersanding function took place on the 1st of April both at the groom's side while the bride's side was held at ICC. The groom's Bersanding clothing by Nurhayana Enterprise.

Ambil-ambilan

Ambil-ambilan was held at the bride's side in Kpg Mata-Mata. Congratulations again you both. Ok now go make lotsa lil Fiqs & Wandas! Hehe...

More photos here...

Shafiq & Wanda