Bridezilla!

Bridezilla is a generic term used to describe a difficult, unpleasant, perfectionist bride who leaves aggravated family, friends and bridal vendors in her wake. A bridezilla is obsessed with her wedding as her perfect day and will disregard the feelings of the family, bridesmaids and even her groom in her quest for the perfect wedding.

Bridezilla.com's Definition: Exceptionally attractive, confident women who know what they want and can't be bothered to sugar coat because they are obviously on 100 calorie- a- day microbiotic diets and can't even sneak a pack of Splenda if their life depends on it. Bridezillas are both blessed and cursed with a higher vision of perfection than most mediocre, David's Bridal wearing, Gerber daisy carrying mortals and have no choice but to impart this vision exactly to the masses. It is this motive that drives them to demand nothing less than excellence from their staff-err, wedding party.

Ok so maybe I'm not that extreme. Like i said before, I'm not one of those girls who grew up dreaming of and planning her perfect wedding but that's not to say I don't know what I want. I do, in fact, I have very definite ideas of what I want and even more definite ideas of what I don't want. Examples: I know I don't want frou frou on my dress. I know I don't want anything typically girly (I have allergies to pink frills). Most importantly I know I don't want a giant bridal party - after all the bride (and groom of course :p) are the center of attention so why distract from that by surrounding yourself with a giant bridal party especially when you're my height.

Other half has said that he's seen flashes of bridezilla emerging in the past few weeks. I beg to differ. I do, however, understand why some women go to such lengths to make sure that things are just so. You only have one chance to get it right (unless you're Elizabeth Taylor). Your wedding should reflect who you are. It's always nice to inject a bit of the couple's personality into the event as a whole.

Whatever it is, I believe it's important to ensure that we're not bullied into anything. It's our day and noone else's. After consulting both parental units, our program for the day includes morning tea ceremony at mine, church, light luncheon reception, afternoon tea ceremony at his, dinner reception. It looks to be a long trying day. I pray I don't get grumpy for lack of rest as I tend to do. This is where my darling bridesmaid comes in - to keep me in good spirits and ensure a free flow of stimulants throughout the day. I have every confidence that she'll bridesmaid me through the day with flying colors.

The mish mash of Chinese tradition and church ceremony got me wondering if there is such a thing as a traditional Chinese wedding? More and more couples are having church weddings meaning that the Chinese traditions of the bride pick-up, tea ceremonies and any other denominational customs need to be melded with the church ceremony.

To my understanding (correct me if I'm wrong) Chinese tradition demands that the groom arrives at the bride's house with a group of brothers to be put through the test (by the bride and her sisters) and jump through hurdles (sometimes literally!) before being allowed the honour of collecting his bride - to the victor belongs the spoils so to speak. After proving his worthiness, there will be a tea ceremony where the couple serves tea to the bride's immediate family. The significance of the tea ceremony is the bride's family accepting the groom and gives her over to his care while also acting as a send off for the couple. After this the couple proceeds to the groom's home where there will be another tea ceremony signifying the groom's family's acceptance and welcome of the bride into their family. After all is said and done, wedding receptions will be held to introduce the newlyweds to the extended family and friends.

In this day and age the legal requirement of solemnization whether in church or before the Registrar of Marriages is an additional layer. The church wedding is usually held after the bride's family sends her off with her new husband and the groom's family receives the couple at their home thereafter. Attendance at the Registrar of Marriages (for those not solemnized in church) is usually done prior to the tea ceremonies and reception.

I seem to have wondered off topic. Forgive the wandering mind of a bride-to-be.