White weddings

The term "white wedding" is commonly used to refer to a traditional Western wedding with all it's attendant customs and traditions. "White" is taken to refer to the color of the bride's dress which symbolises purity of heart, the innocence of childhood and virginity. In Victorian times, wearing a white dress indicated wealth and affluence but that's not so in modern times what with the rise of the rent-a-dress.

Some girls grow up dreaming of their wedding day, the one day in your life where everyone aims to please you because it's YOUR day. Some girls dream of white princess dresses with flowing trains and spend years planning their perfect wedding.

I'm not one of those girls. Have never been and never will be but I'm learning fast what it takes to plan a wedding. The most important things are checklists and delegation of responsibility. Gather your family and close friends around you and tell them exactly what you want and what you need them to do. Know what you want and don't be airy fairy about things. Give them specific instructions e.g. "I want a 3-tiered wedding cake with lavender trimmings" don't give them vague details and expect them to read your mind. If you don't know what you want then how the hell do you expect them to know? Next thing you have to do is set deadlines so everyone knows what is expected of them and by when. Lastly, don't constantly nag them about doing things. If you've been clear with your instructions then there should be no problem. Yes, I like the bootcamp style of organising. Tough love and all that.

There's 2 1/2 months left until D-Day. The venues, makeup artist and photographers have been booked, invitations have been designed and are ready to be printed at a moment's notice, the boys have been measured for their suits and my dress design is in good hands. We're finalising guest lists and mulling over menus is the next step. I'm still hunting for the perfect pair of shoes although my plan B are my bling bling Feldmans. The bridal party has been briefed and is ready to go. The parental units of the flower girls and ring bearer are hoping that the kids perform on the day :p

A few questions going through my mind:

1. Bling. Every bride needs bling. I'm still looking for THE statement piece that's just me.
2. Tiaras or feathers? or even a top hat with the veil!? What do you think?
3. Pocket squares or corsages for the boys?
4. Set date for pre-wedding shoot so our fantastically talented photographer can get us to cam-slut for him (not that we haven't before :p).
5. Hair - to grow or not to grow, that is the question. I guess I'm halfway there already so may as well go whole hog and ask for extensions!
6. Should we send out "You are not invited" cards so everyone knows where they stand :p
7. How do we fill a 7 bedroom house with just 2 of us??
8. Uh Oh...after this we'll be fielding questions about the pitter patter of little feet. I don't think the world is ready for another mini-me or a mini-Bryan.